by Alan Cohen | Feb 15, 2016 | Looking for Psychotherapy
This is a seemingly simple question, but it is perhaps, at the core of how we live and how we feel about ourselves. If we are able to be clear about what matters to us, accepting of this, and organizing our actions in support of this, life will likely be meaningful...
by Alan Cohen | Feb 23, 2015 | Forgiveness or Acceptance, Looking for Psychotherapy
There is much in current thinking about forgiveness. It is being spoken about in religious, “pop” psychology, 12 step, and “new age” circles. The basic premises, as I understand them are: 1)When we hold onto a grudge or resentment we are only burdening ourselves, and...
by Alan Cohen | Dec 9, 2014 | Looking for Psychotherapy, NYC Therapist
Life faces us with difficulties. Some difficulties are situational, where we live with danger or scarcity. Some difficulties are relational, where we deal with conflict or loss or loneliness. Some difficulties are physical, where we deal with injury or illness. Some...
by Alan Cohen | Aug 16, 2014 | Gestalt Therapy, Looking for Psychotherapy, NYC Therapist
If you have arrived here, you probably are searching on the internet for a therapist. Many people search with some particular ideas in mind: they want a man, or a woman; older or younger; takes my insurance; is kind, wise, strong; shares my philosophy about life… And...
by Alan Cohen | Aug 14, 2014 | Looking for Psychotherapy
Scarecrows serve an interesting purpose: they are incapable of doing any harm to intruders, but their power lies in creating the illusion that they can and will. So, the crows stay out of the cornfields, even though if they were to venture forth they would enjoy a...
by Alan Cohen | Aug 13, 2014 | Gestalt Therapy, Looking for Psychotherapy, NYC Therapist
I spend the day sitting with patients. These are people who come to see me because they are aware (sometimes vaguely, sometimes acutely) that something is missing in their lives. These are intelligent people, educated, creative, moral, but missing something. They...